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Falling in love without losing your mind March 8, 2009

Filed under: Everyday Challenges,single-living,Turning 40 — herlyrics @ 2:37 am

Do you remember the first time you fell in love?

I don’t think I have ever fallin’ in love, cause I haven’t lost my mind!  lol

Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep and committed relationship with another, to be loved completely and unconditionally. The question is how do we get there, where do we find it? (love)

One thing I have learned in the world of dating is that it is better to be hated for what I am than to be loved for what I am not.

We can not become what someone else wants us to be; we have to be true to ourselves.

“Doom” awaits any relationship where one person tries to change another into someone they are not.

Hey, what you see is what you get!

Often our mates want us to meet their friends and fit in, they allow their friends to judge us; this can be a good thing or a bad thing.

We can not alter who we are considerably to fit in with our mates friends, I would rather just be courageous and move on.

Be smart!

Smart love seeks a good match.  I was not always smart about who I dated.  But now I try to date with more common sense.  I have to remove my heart and all those tingling feelings and put my brain to work.

Pay attention to values.  Paying attention to what people value, reveals how you will be treated.

How do they see themselves?  How do they view money?  family values, spiritual values.

If your mate yells at their mother or any love ones, If your mate argues with anyone in public, if your mate gets angry at every little thing, if your mate blames you for every little or big argument, if your mate raises their hand up at you or disrespects you…they are showing you the future!  This will not change just because you say “I do.”

Learn to disagree agreeably.  Learn to pick your battles and leave others where they are at.

There has to be common grounds.

What makes your mate laugh?  What are their fears?  What do they like to do?

Close relationships are more likely to develop with someone who shares your ideas, values and desires.

How do we know if this is a match?  It takes time.

I have learned from many lessons-there is danger in getting close to soon.

My biggest mistakes: fallen for “all talk.”  Others may view this as “Lies.”

How ever you view this just learn to watch and see if their talk matches their walk.

Fall in smart love not crazy love, love does not make you lose your mind!


2 Responses to “Falling in love without losing your mind”

  1. lilcarmel Says:

    that is so true.. People shouldn’t change for no one and they also shouldn’t put their self in a dangerous relationship… If you’re in an abusive relationship it don’t matter physical, Verbal or what ever that isn’t love.. So you’re on the right point

    later your boi **D**

  2. matlive88 Says:

    I’m going to counseling now because of love… (lol!)

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