It’s not over… April 25, 2009

This is just a short post:

Just a reminder to everyone that although things may be going horrible for a lot of us out here;  just remember that it’s not over until it’s over.

Until then do all you can do solve or improve the situation that you are in.

If one door slams, find a way to open up another.

If it’s a matter of paying bills; keep calling until they “actually” hear you.  “Pout” if you half to.

Just know, all the threats and letters and disconnect services doesn’t mean you have failed…there is always another way.

It’s not over until it’s over or as some may say;

it’s not over until God says it’s over!

True colors can ruin the outcome April 22, 2009

Yesterday I had to go to court; my exlandlord vs me! 

It’s funny about how problems will eventually be worked out and how lies can destroy you but true colors can save you or ruin  you.

One of the witnesses’ was a lady we both were using. 

A bit of advice; although you may think someone is your friend just because you are helping them “be aware.”

A lot of dishonesty was in the court room yesterday…now what ever happened to “raise your right hand…I swear…”

Ugliness got in the way yesterday.  When I say ugliness I mean attitude and body language.  I do believe my land lord could have collected much more from me, but because of his witness; (my so called friend) her unkindness, loud outbursts, crazy remarks and much more….it made him look like “he was not being quite honest.”

I still have respect for my ex-landlord no harsh feelings.  He feels the same about me.  Although he got less than what he was asking, and the worst part is that he received less than what I tried to offer months ago before coming to court!

Sometimes, greed can get you no where.  But what’s more important; becareful who you choose to stand next to you.

Lies can destroy you, but “true colors,” it can “over rule.”

How do you climb the ladder? March 30, 2009

One thing for sure:  during hard times you always find out who your real friends are or who you can truly count on; or do you?

I’m not one to call everyone I meet my friend, but I like to keep people at a distance and my friends pretty close. 

People are funny, I see so much since taking on this last job.  People are always gossiping about nothing and then smiling in your face the next.  My name  hasn’t been in any of the gossiping conversations (at least I think) because I keep to myself, but it is funny to watch folks stab one another in the back just to climb a little higher and receive a  little more pay.

It’s even more amazing to see how supervisors act and respond.  It amazes me to see favoritism being played no matter how the situation went down. 

I have seen backstabbing, gossip, lies, jealousy, mistreatment and much more in a company where there is mainly woman with a staff team of 20-25 people. 

I often think to myself; would the environment be a little more different if it were majority men?  I hear that men compete differently than women; is this true?

I just stand by and watch and smile, because I don’t care to fit in.  I don’t plan on being employed there to long.  If things were different, I guess I would be a part of the gossip, because I would be working my butt off to be “Head Supervisor”…who wouldn’t want more money?  But I would see no reason to lie to bring someone else down! 

I would just get to the top fairly but aggressively!

It is quite sad to see so many ladies smiling and hanging out together and then backstabbing one another.  I guess the saying is true at this company keep your friends close but your enemies closer!

Determination March 17, 2009

You ever wish that you could just fly away?  Have wings like an Eagle and just escape?  Fly away and have no worries at all?  Wouldn’t that just be nice?

I’ve been told that attitude determines altitude.  If I think I can, then I will.  If I think I can’t, then I can’t.

Times are really really hard for a lot of us right now, but you know we just have to be determined to make it.  We half to have a positive attitude toward our situation, so that we are able to rise above it.

When ever I find myself thinking negative thoughts like:  I’m just going to give up, or I’m so far behind- what’s the point now, or everything always goes wrong for me; what would be the difference this time around;

I have to remind myself that in order to achieve whatever it is, I have to speak truth, comfort, love and  support to myself.  I have to be my biggest and strongest cheerleader.  I have to be determined to make it through-to rise above.

I have to continue to walk by faith and turn my negative into positive.

Plan A didn’t work, plan B didn’t work….do I actually think that plan C is going to work?  With much determination and my attitude toward it all, plan C is actually starting to show some good signs.

Never let right now determine my faith is what I like to speak to myself daily.  It is hard to not do, but it is easy to do if you are determined to make it through.

If you think you can, you will!

Falling in love without losing your mind March 8, 2009

Do you remember the first time you fell in love?

I don’t think I have ever fallin’ in love, cause I haven’t lost my mind!  lol

Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep and committed relationship with another, to be loved completely and unconditionally. The question is how do we get there, where do we find it? (love)

One thing I have learned in the world of dating is that it is better to be hated for what I am than to be loved for what I am not.

We can not become what someone else wants us to be; we have to be true to ourselves.

“Doom” awaits any relationship where one person tries to change another into someone they are not.

Hey, what you see is what you get!

Often our mates want us to meet their friends and fit in, they allow their friends to judge us; this can be a good thing or a bad thing.

We can not alter who we are considerably to fit in with our mates friends, I would rather just be courageous and move on.

Be smart!

Smart love seeks a good match.  I was not always smart about who I dated.  But now I try to date with more common sense.  I have to remove my heart and all those tingling feelings and put my brain to work.

Pay attention to values.  Paying attention to what people value, reveals how you will be treated.

How do they see themselves?  How do they view money?  family values, spiritual values.

If your mate yells at their mother or any love ones, If your mate argues with anyone in public, if your mate gets angry at every little thing, if your mate blames you for every little or big argument, if your mate raises their hand up at you or disrespects you…they are showing you the future!  This will not change just because you say “I do.”

Learn to disagree agreeably.  Learn to pick your battles and leave others where they are at.

There has to be common grounds.

What makes your mate laugh?  What are their fears?  What do they like to do?

Close relationships are more likely to develop with someone who shares your ideas, values and desires.

How do we know if this is a match?  It takes time.

I have learned from many lessons-there is danger in getting close to soon.

My biggest mistakes: fallen for “all talk.”  Others may view this as “Lies.”

How ever you view this just learn to watch and see if their talk matches their walk.

Fall in smart love not crazy love, love does not make you lose your mind!

A day on the job… March 4, 2009

Wouldn’t it be nice if the world showed one another “appreciation?”  Or better yet, your Supervisor acknowledged you for a job well done often!

For the past few weeks I have been working my butt off for several companies, giving more than 100%.

I’m getting paid for my work, the pay is nice… but more than anything a simple “thank you” would be even nicer.  Its funny to be on the other side of the street.  I’ve had my own business for the past 16 years,  but do work on the side to help make ends meet now.   Working for others has made me look at the way I may come across to others and the way I respond to employees.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve always treated staff respectful, appreciated them and shown plenty of love daily!

They have shown me plenty of love as well.

But to actually hear appreciating words often can put a smile on an employees face for a few months.  Appreciation takes away the pain of not making the actual pay they wanted.  Just loving their job and feeling appreciated will settle just as well.

People like to be recognized and appreciated for all their hard work they do for you and your company.  I will always be a wonderful employee and always give 100% if not better.  I hope to one day hear;  “you’re doing a great job” or “keep up the good work”…or something!

Even if I never hear the words thank you or be given or shown some sort of appreciation, I will continue to do my work at its best; after all I am receiving compensation for it!

But what I am learning from all of this is to encourage my staff from time to time.  Say thank you more often.  Show appreciation in many creative ways, and acknowledge them in front of others!

To all the wonderful people I have met through this job who are feeling not important and under-appreciative; I think and know that you are doing great work!  Heck…you could run the place!  Keep up the good work.  I know it’s stressful-but it would be even more stressful if you were not employed there!

(You know who you are)

Almost there; just can’t stop March 4, 2009

Filed under: single and pushing 40….   author: Lyric @ 1:40 am

We all love Mountains, but if we love mountains, we got to have valleys!  In order to get to where I am suppose to be, I must first go through the valleys; whatever they may be.

I’m at a point in life where I am taking a closer look at myself and my life.  What is the purpose of my life, I find myself asking “myself”.

Last year I made a decision to down size my business.  I did that at the end of the year.

It’s funny how you can have a plan…A,B, and C and still get caught in a struggle with the “unexpected.”  Now what, what do you do when you don’t know what to do?

I wanna tell some people off, scream and cry my eyes out!

But after all that is said and done, then what?

Here I am almost 40, going through so many life changes.  (I was warned this would happen around mid-age)

I’m facing a “red sea,” (impossible situation).

One thing I believe is “the force before me is greater than the force against me.”

Yes I’m discouraged, yes I want to give up at times; who doesn’t.  But to give up my faith, my courage, my beliefs in myself is allowing the enemy to succeed.

I continue to encourage myself: you have big goals, you have big dreams!  Don’t you dare settle just because you have disappointments in your path!

The purpose of my life, well just to live each day as if it was my last.

I’m a Christian and I have strong-faith.  If not I would have given up by now….you just don’t know the half of it!  I’m also human, just like you.

It does seem like the impossible to me through my “human eyes.”

We have a right to express ourselves.  We have a right to feel as if the walls are closing around us.  We have a right to become discouraged and to show emotions.  We have a right to tell people what we are going through without being judge.

I’ve learned those who judge others “harshly” are usually unhappy themselves.  They find themselves in repeated circumstances over and over.  They take what you say and do, then read into it the way they want to see it. A way that makes them “lash out at you”, trying to make you feel guilty and a way to put a smile on their face.   Because of their “reputation” they have to pretend to be a “certain way.”  They’re unhappy with their marriage, singleness, career or life in general, but don’t know how to admit to it or where to begin to fix the problems.

There is no reasoning with people who like to judge others-those so called people,  I keep at a distance.

As for me, I’m going to continue to walk through these valleys until I reach my mountain!  I will try not to look down, but to look up.  It will be hard.

I hope my audience who read my blog will be encourage from anything I write.  Come on board as we all encourage one another and respond to hard times together.

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40 and still single, what the …. March 4, 2009

under: Uncategorized — Lyric @ 11:22 pm

When ever I check the “singles” box,  I’m stating:  never married, confident and available!

Hello and welcome to my blog!  Here I am pushing 40 and wanting to share some of my past and future with you.

It’s funny when I tell my relationship status I get “what the …..looks or questions.” A few of my favorites:

“What, you too picky?” or “What… you too independent to need a man?”

As funny as it may be, it can be very irritating when asked the question, “why are you still single?”

Why can’t I be single just because I choose to be single for now?  I don’t ask married couples, “what, you couldn’t stand being alone”?  Or, “Oh no!  What happened?!

The thing is that I love being single.  One day I will love being married, but since I’m not there yet, I will talk about being 40 and single!  Whether you are divorced, widow, single parent or individual, I hope you will enjoy reading my blog often.

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Submitted on 2009/03/02 at 11:31pm Hi thanks for a great post. I’ll be back